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Do you know how to be beautiful?

Interesting question isn’t it?  We all know that beauty comes from the inside and society judges us first from the outside…at least for the first few moments.  I bet we all know at least one ‘beautiful’ woman who is so insecure (resulting in meanness) that we don’t see her as beautiful at all.  For me, beauty is the combination of both inside and outside.  Of course, it’s easier to work on the outside, right?  But it can never cover up what’s going on the inside if you don’t work on your internal dialogue.

The inside takes years to develop and make beautiful – and it happens in one place:  that big muscle we need to be exercising more…our brains.    Our brain is not a big computer like some think — we are not hard-wired to be a certain way.  The brain is fluid and can change and adapt to whatever comes our way; this plasticity also allows us to change our thoughts and behaviors, both good and bad.

We all have ‘triggers’ that can pull memories from our massive internal archives and these triggers can invoke certain thoughts or beliefs.  One such trigger can be standing in front of a dressing room mirror.  For some reason, our thighs seem enormously huge.  Is it the mirror?  No, it’s your brain – your perception has become seriously flawed.  But you can reverse it.  It’s not easy, especially when who we think we are is so deeply ingrained in us.

We are usually our own worst critics. We beat ourselves up and end up paralyzed, afraid to move forward and get out of the negative self talk. Well, it’s time to stop. Make today the day you stop the negative self talk. The most prominent neuroscientists in the world have proven that if you don’t use it (parts of your brain), you lose it.  So don’t fat talk. Lose it and be beautiful.

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Armil @ Long Beach GFCI February 25, 2011 at 12:06 am

Hi Theresa, I’m just curious about the work of wardrobe therapist. Sorry for the question, it’s something new for me. I’m just learning things. Thanks.

Teresa February 25, 2011 at 12:53 pm

Hi Armil! It’s not a certified title — it’s more of a play on words as my clients continually call me their wardrobe therapist because a lot of emotion is tied with our clothes. I help them let go of those items in their closet that are holding them back. 🙂

Linda C Smith January 7, 2011 at 12:26 pm

This is a thoughtful article. I agree totally. I just turned 60 and it occurred to me that I’m not happy with the “stylish” me, the me that would love a wardrobe that fits who I believe I am. In order to do that I need to achieve wellness which has within that achieving a goal weight and fitness. For me I have to think in positive terms, not negative ones. That tv show program called ‘biggest loser’ is one that I cannot relate to simply because I don’t see myself as a ‘loser.’ Rather I’ve started a program that has within its name ‘revealing your best self.’ Becoming vital again and seeking to thrive is the best way to bring sunshine into my style picture I think.

John from Electricians in Paddington January 7, 2011 at 5:12 am

Very deep idea here yet very meaningful. Yes this is absolutely true. But we can look too with our spiritual being, when we are spiritually well all things will work out fine. Because when God is with you, it is a perfect beauty.

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