When Being a WAHM Really Loses Its Cool Points

June 8, 2011

in Relationships & Family

wahm cool points

When I catch my son slowly smushing the cat’s head into the carpet… for the 5th time that day.

When the effect of timeout, spanking, taking toys away, etc. takes a periodic hiatus.

When the screaming doesn’t start until I get on the phone with a client. Then stops immediately afterward.

When going to a networking event becomes an escape!

When I work four hours AFTER the kiddo nods off for the night.

When balance seems impossible

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I’m considering coining a new acronym: T2WAKAHM

Try to Work Around the Kid(s) at Home Mom

What new acronyms really describe your WAHM experience or that of someone you know? I know that it cannot be the way that it is in Family Circle or Redbook. No way!

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jigsawverbiage June 13, 2011 at 8:48 pm

Ha! And people wonder why I don’t take my kids to work with me more often when I have the flexibility to do so. For the same reason I don’t work from home unless I really need, despite that flexibility too – if you want something done, you’ve got to do it ALONE. My kids don’t understand right now why I bug out when they keep popping up out of bed, but they too will be parents one day and then they shall know! More power to you WAHMs. I’d take an office away from home any day for as long as my 2nd baby is under double digits (3 years to go).

Red Kathy June 9, 2011 at 10:38 pm

Yeah I remember those days Tia. Don’t feel guilty it goes with the wahm territory. I always got compliments on how well behaved my boys were and would think to myself, Yeah right come spend some time with me while I’m working… Which one is fighting and who’s screaming or what was that crash!!!

Oh and I have more news for you, after the kids it’s the spouse! Husbands don’t do well in time out either!! He talks to me almost EVERY time I get on the phone, and he will see me. I’ll be in our office for crying out loud!!!

AYDAB? (are you deaf and blind)

Red Kathy June 9, 2011 at 10:38 pm

Yeah I remember those days Tia. Don’t feel guilty it goes with the wahm territory. I always got compliments on how well behaved my boys were and would think to myself, Yeah right come spend some time with me while I’m working… Which one is fighting and who’s screaming or what was that crash!!!

Oh and I have more news for you, after the kids it’s the spouse! Husbands don’t do well in time out either!! He talks to me almost EVERY time I get on the phone, and he will see me. I’ll be in our office for crying out loud!!!

AYDAB? (are you deaf and blind)

closetwriter June 9, 2011 at 5:58 pm

Oh my gosh!!! Here was an eye opener for me Tia. Yesterday I was on a Skype call with a big wig at Ford Motor Comp. I had showered, put on a nice top, put on lipstick, you get the drift. When I came downstairs my darling daughter says, “Wow, Mom, why do you look so pretty??”

Ahhhh! So I guess my acronym for right now is MBISYLSP (Must Be Important Since You Look So Pretty).

Maybe I will dress up when I have a really hectic day that way my kids take me serious. Bahahha!

weekdaysolomommy June 9, 2011 at 1:14 pm

I can totally relate- especially the part of about getting on the phone and the screaming starts….so embarrassing! I also have the mantra about my commute, and I also remind myself how awesome it is to not blow dry my hair and wear sweats all day. The productivity that people brag about when they work at home goes out the window with kids around, until they go to sleep (which is when I want to be vegging, not working).

Tia Peterson June 8, 2011 at 5:43 pm

@LindaCSmith I totally get it! Your parrot sounds exactly like my three year old – and maybe worse because you can’t put him in timeout! :)

Tia Peterson June 8, 2011 at 5:39 pm

@bethbaroody Beth I actually just laughed out loud at this one. LOL You make me feel less guilty for the days where I’m THIS CLOSE to getting an outside job so I can escape.

bethbaroody June 8, 2011 at 5:35 pm

T2S2A2GSWD – Try to Stay Sane And Actually Get Some Work Done! That’s my work at home acronym and which is why I now have a work outside the home job. Good for those who can do it, but I’m not one of those work at home folks. Well, not until my kids grow up and go into the stage where they avoid me like the plague.

LindaCSmith June 8, 2011 at 2:06 pm

It’s funny, now that I’m a grandmom you’d think I wouldn’t relate anymore to this, but now I’m a WAPAH – that’s Work with a Parrot at Home “mom.” We have a seven-year old Amazon parrot named George – Amazons in personality are very social and very much like a perpetual 2 or 3-year old human. George likes to play with toys around my feet while I’m working; he likes to sit on my desk and mess with my keyboard; he will scream quite loudly if he sees a cat in the neighborhood through the windows of my studio office. When he wants your attention he demands your attention. And shutting him in his cage all day is not an option – Amazons require social input for their health. So here I am, a WAPAH.

Tia Peterson June 8, 2011 at 12:14 pm

@DawnMcNary@louiseedington hahaah Thanks, Dawn! It’s sooo good to remember that and also how much gas I am saving now. That part is awesome.

Tia Peterson June 8, 2011 at 12:14 pm

@PintopPro Yep! It works better for me that way, too!

DawnMcNary June 8, 2011 at 12:02 pm

OMG so accurate..especially the telephone situation…all I want to say is my husband was kind enough to add a ‘new puppy’ into the mix- which has made it so much mroe than it ever was before! Gotta love it!! But remember the mantra- I LOVE my commute!! I LOVE my commute!! @louiseedington

PintopPro June 8, 2011 at 11:47 am

I can so relate Tia. I do some of my best work after my son goes to bed at night.

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