You can’t handle the truth

in Relationships & Family


Femininity. Female. Woman. When I say these things what thoughts are evoked? If you had asked me fifteen years ago my answer would have "women"

been completely different than it is today. Isn’t that the amazing thing about us evolving as a human being. I am not the same person I was even last week.

Fifteen years ago I thought a woman, at least a feminine woman was soft spoken, demure, passive, and weak. The complete opposite of me. I mean the absolute, polar opposite of me. I was loud, outgoing, aggressive & strong willed. How could I possible be a woman, much less a feminine woman, with those types of traits?

Thank goodness we grow and change. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still loud, outgoing, aggressive & strong willed. I just now have long, wavy hair. And, we all know if you have long, wavy hair you are feminine. Right? Right?

Yeah, not so much. I love all my traits. Really I do. Over the years I have learned to soften certain areas of my personality. Perhaps I am not quite as loud as I was. I have scaled back sharing my opinion every opportunity I get. I have also realized that there are times, few, but, there are times where I can be wrong. Because of these changes I feel more feminine, more woman like. Is that strange?

I don’t think we can handle the truth. The truth of how our world looks at woman. If you are a strong, self assured, take no bull, kind of woman then that equals you being a  _ itch. Sorry, I don’t like to write swear words. But, you get the drift.

In my early twenties I was a manager for a large telemarketing company.  I was good at my job. My team had great numbers, and I was pretty darn good at motivating. However, there were always those few males that had to be disciplined and when I stood my ground, did my job & penalized them I was considered a _itch.

It drove me nuts, and still does. Why is it that a man can do the exact same thing and be awesome?  No wonder I had this distorted sense of what a woman should be like. After many, many years I am finally comfortable in my own skin, in my own femininity. I’ve come to the realization that I can be soft spoken, loud, demure, outgoing, passive, aggressive, weak & strong willed all rolled into one fabulous woman.


Back to my original question.


What do you think of when you hear: femininity, female, woman     Do you think of positive things?


Let’s discuss.


Until next time,