Femininity. Female. Woman. When I say these things what thoughts are evoked? If you had asked me fifteen years ago my answer would have
Fifteen years ago I thought a woman, at least a feminine woman was soft spoken, demure, passive, and weak. The complete opposite of me. I mean the absolute, polar opposite of me. I was loud, outgoing, aggressive & strong willed. How could I possible be a woman, much less a feminine woman, with those types of traits?
Thank goodness we grow and change. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still loud, outgoing, aggressive & strong willed. I just now have long, wavy hair. And, we all know if you have long, wavy hair you are feminine. Right? Right?
Yeah, not so much. I love all my traits. Really I do. Over the years I have learned to soften certain areas of my personality. Perhaps I am not quite as loud as I was. I have scaled back sharing my opinion every opportunity I get. I have also realized that there are times, few, but, there are times where I can be wrong. Because of these changes I feel more feminine, more woman like. Is that strange?
I don’t think we can handle the truth. The truth of how our world looks at woman. If you are a strong, self assured, take no bull, kind of woman then that equals you being a _ itch. Sorry, I don’t like to write swear words. But, you get the drift.
In my early twenties I was a manager for a large telemarketing company. I was good at my job. My team had great numbers, and I was pretty darn good at motivating. However, there were always those few males that had to be disciplined and when I stood my ground, did my job & penalized them I was considered a _itch.
It drove me nuts, and still does. Why is it that a man can do the exact same thing and be awesome? No wonder I had this distorted sense of what a woman should be like. After many, many years I am finally comfortable in my own skin, in my own femininity. I’ve come to the realization that I can be soft spoken, loud, demure, outgoing, passive, aggressive, weak & strong willed all rolled into one fabulous woman.
Back to my original question.
What do you think of when you hear: femininity, female, woman Do you think of positive things?
Until next time,