There are two subjects that you should never ask women about: age and weight. Just the other day, I was speaking on the telephone with my aunt and we were discussing the age of my dad if he were alive today.
Before I knew it, I asked my aunt her age, because I know she is two years younger than my dad. Do you know she didn’t want to tell me her age? I don’t know why she didn’t want to reveal her age, because she is a beautiful woman in her 60s.
I hope to age as gracefully as she has. The topic of weight has come up before, too, and I have asked her weight and she hesitated to tell me. What is the big deal about revealing our age and weight?
Why is it that when someone asks us how old we are, or how much we weigh, we don’t want to answer the question? As sure as we live, we will get older. Now the weight… that’s another story. It seems like the older we get, the more weight we pick up along the way.
True Story
I entered my freshman year in college weighing 110 lbs, and four years later, I was up to 125 lbs. After I finishing graduate school I was almost 140 lbs. Wow, I really packed on those pounds and dared anyone ask me my weight.
Well two years into my marriage, I found myself weighing 152 lbs. Oh no, this is crazy. The weight I gained over the years sneaked up on me and I still dared anyone to ask my weight.
Back then if anyone asked me my weight, they probably would have received a good country beat down (I’m a southern girl). Well, I’m kidding about the country beat down, but they would have never known my weight.
The Weight Issue
Many women have faced or will face the issue of weight gain. The weight issue strikes some of us during our elementary years and others after the high school years, while we’re in college, a few years in to marriage, and of course after the children.
It seems like no matter which way we turn, the weight issue is always there. We can’t get away from it, no matter how hard we try. It doesn’t matter if a woman is the perfect weight, the topic of weight gets avoided most the time. Why is this?
Why is Weight Such a Big Deal?
Weight, for some, is a big deal, and for others it is not such a big deal. Weight doesn’t get discussed too much in social gatherings, but all you have to do is turn on the television or flip through a magazine and you’ll see what others deem as beautiful. Most of the time you will see a slender model, even though the typical woman is not slender; she has a few curves going on.
Does this mean that you are not beautiful if you’re not slender? Certainly not, but the image of beauty is engraved in our minds and as a result, most women never share their weight. Our thoughts are that it’s personal, and no one needs to know how much we weigh.
No Nonsense Tips about Weight
Most women do not want to be overweight, but find it hard to lose the weight and keep it off. Losing weight gets harder as we get older, but it is never to late to get fit.
Some women have grown to accept their weight as a part of who they are and that’s not a bad thing. Here are some tips about not letting your weight be a challenge in your life:
1. Don’t worry about your weight. Stop worrying about how you look to others, because worry causes stress. The more stressed you are, the harder it will be for you to deal with the weight question.
2. Stop keeping your weight a secret. Okay, I know this will be a hard one, but feeling free to share your weight helps you see reality as it is. I’m not saying share your weight with everyone, but don’t make such a big deal about it. I personally think that if you share your weight, by just hearing the number,you get pumped up to do what you have to do.
3. Stop using your baby as your crutch. You can blame the baby if the baby is 2 or 3 years old, but after the baby gets 5-10 years old, it’s time to stop blaming the baby. Just face it, you don’t want to talk about your weight.
4. Love and accept you the way you are. I guess you’re saying, “easier said than done.” You’re right, but you have to start somewhere. When women love and accept themselves, the challenge of weight is not an issue. No matter what the scale says.
Discussion: Are you hesitant to discuss your weight with family and friends?
Evelyn’s answer: Yes! I guess it’s just one of those womanly things, but I shouldn’t be hesitant to discuss it, after all it’s just a number. 
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@onhighheelzPR I’ve been an emotional eater in the past. When I’m down, I will not eat anything, but when I’m up and doing fine, I eat. Everyone handles eating and emotions differently.
Yes, yes…when we love and accept ourselves nothing can get in our way.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing!
@onhighheelzPR I’ve been an emotional eater in the past. When I’m down, I will not eat anything, but when I’m up and doing fine, I eat. Everyone handles eating and emotions differently.
Yes, yes…when we love and accept ourselves nothing can get in our way.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing!
@Evelyn Parham This is so great and so candid, Evelyn! I have always had to work hard to keep the weight off, versus my younger sister who will always be thin, no matter how many children she has had (3 boys), and no matter how much she eats! I used to be an emotional eater – eating everything in sight when I was down, and eating extremely healthy when I was feeling good. Such an odd extreme, but when it came down to really loving and accepting myself (and occasionally refusing to eat the drippy, gooey ice cream sundae), I have been able to slim and healthy. Yes, your #4 is what has saved my sanity! LOL.
This is so great and so candid, Evelyn! I have always had to work hard to keep the weight off, versus my younger sister who will always be thin, no matter how many children she has had (3 boys), and no matter how much she eats! I used to be an emotional eater – eating everything in sight when I was down, and eating extremely healthy when I was feeling good. Such an odd extreme, but when it came down to really loving and accepting myself (and occasionally refusing to eat the drippy, gooey ice cream sundae), I have been able to slim and healthy. Yes, your #4 is what has saved my sanity! LOL.
@Mywritingworld Good to see you! Change can be a good thing. Glad you found it a good read.
Take care,
Evelyn
Entertaining article by Evelyn. These are universal facts about women and each women find it a different way of expressing it. But then again it is time to change that now. Thanks for a good read. Fran A
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