When what you’re doing causes you pain, do something else. If that were as easy to do as it is to say, we’d have much happier people on the planet.
Here is what we know: it’s not as easy to do something else as it sounds. However, it can be easier if we have a plan.
The plan, while not right for everyone as is, should look a little something like this:
- Figure out how to let go of some pride and get some gratitude. Yes, your job sucks. Perhaps your job causes anxiety, stress, or even illness because you just can’t stand what you’re doing. Letting go of pride means being okay with the fact that you played a big part in where you are today. Say to yourself, “so what?” Onward. Everyone makes choices they wish they had not made. Increasing gratitude means being thankful that you’re not standing in the unemployment queue or worse, living with someone else because you can’t keep a roof over your head. Those folks have it a little worse off than you do.
- Start looking for something else. If you’re thinking or talking a lot about how you’d rather be doing something else, now is the time to take action. For the most part, you cannot find something you’re not looking for. Most things in life happen because we actively took a step in that direction, whether we realized it at the time or not.
- Embrace the idea of change. Misery is quite content where it is. If you are miserable, perhaps… just perhaps… you’re actually okay with the misery. You’ve figured a way to work around it. Think hard about that. Because the truth is that if you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see but do nothing about it, maybe it’s not as bad to you as you make it sound. Maybe there’s something comfortable about your misery. Guess what? It’s never going to change, then. If you hate your work, you need to come to terms with the fact that something is going to have to change. Primarily: YOU.
There are no other steps in the plan. Once you have let go of your pride, found some gratitude, begun to look for other work, and are okay with the idea of change in your life, you WILL find something else. Or, you may discover the source of the pain and take steps to get away from it. I believe our bodies and spirits were not designed to endure pain for long. Our minds, however, need a lot of work.