The Single Step You MUST Take to Live Your Dream

December 31, 2012

in growth., success.

This is part two of an article I wrote called “Are You Living Someone Else’s Life?

In this article I’m going to talk about failure, and give you a completely new way of looking at it, so that you no longer see failure incorrectly as something negative that is to be avoided.

For most of us, quite simply, we’re afraid of failure… and if we fail once, twice, or three times, we feel like our dream is “not for us”, or we begin to doubt ourselves, and become more disheartened with each attempt.

And I want to mention here: this step is INEVITABLE.

John Paul DeJoria, the founder of Paul Mitchell, had a quote, from when he was going door-to-door trying to sell his hair products to salons when he was starting out in 1980 that goes,

“When the door is slammed in your face 99 times, you go to door number 100 with just as much enthusiasm.”

This trait alone separates a person who succeeds in life from a person who fails.

Almost nobody gets something right the first time… everything we do is a learning experience, and when you’re first starting out, and people criticize you for failing, that’s when you’re at your most inexperienced, and when it’s reasonable that you’ll fail.

Nobody picks up a bicycle, or tries to walk, or swim, and fails 100 times and says, “that’s it, I guess I’m just not meant to be a walker”… and following this formula of persistence we ALWAYS succeed… so why did we stop doing it as adults?

Thomas Edison failed trying to invent the light bulb 10,000 times, and if he’d let other people steal his dream from him, and let the opinions of others that just because he didn’t get it right the first 10,000 times he should give up, we might never have the light bulb.

Look At “Failure” In A New Way

Thomas Edison knew something other people didn’t:

The only way to succeed is to stand in the face of people, situations, and challenges that come up, and recognize that every time you make a mistake it’s not because you’re not good enough; it’s because you’re learning, and slowly becoming better and better than everyone else, which will ultimately lead to your success.

But most people don’t see failure that way.

Most people will only see things the way they are in the PRESENT… and if you have two years of consecutive failures they’ll automatically assume that means you’re not good enough, when what you’re really doing is learning… but they see it as, “if he/she failed for two years, that’s evidence it isn’t going to work.”

But that’s NOT THE CASE.

This just means that you haven’t figured out enough trial-and-error to perfect your formula for whatever you’re doing… but you need to face three things in order to get to this step:

1) Your fear of failure
2) Your fear of ridicule/opinions
3) Your fear of rejection

The great thing I’ve discovered about following your passion and being an entrepreneur is that these experiences are actually GOOD things, because they reveal your weak points, force you to overcome them, and make you a stronger person.

I can bet the people judging and criticizing you are also never growing or challenging themselves with things they can’t presently handle, and that is the key to becoming stronger, more powerful, and ultimately achieving the impossible.

When people say, “that can’t be done,” they have no way of knowing what’s possible until we accomplish it.

We didn’t know whether flight was possible until the Wright brothers made it possible.

What you need to shift to saying is, “this presently can’t be done, because nobody’s figured out a way to do it”… then go looking for that way to achieve your goals.

Doing this alone will separate you from 99% of people, who don’t even bother dreaming of a new way of doing things, because someone already defined all their ideas of “can” and “can’t” for them

1) Are you living someone else’s life?
2) To what degree are you living someone else’s life?
3) What do you want to do with your life?

Consider those questions the most important questions you will ever as yourself… because this isn’t a game you’re playing with, it’s your life.

You’ve got something incredible to offer the world… but are you selling out your dream to someone else’s opinion?

What Is Your Dream, And A Step You Can Take Right Now Toward Achieving It?

Chris Nosal writes about marketing, innovation, and following your passion at his blog. He is passionate about changing the world, inspiring people, and doing things that change the way we see things, and change the world, you can learn more about him by visiting his blog.

Image credit: Evgeni Dinev, freedigitalphotos.net

christina@Tumsehi January 26, 2013 at 12:20 am

If you really want something, and really work hard, and take advantage of opportunities, and never give up, you will find a way.. Follow your Dreams.

Mike Allan January 24, 2013 at 3:59 pm

Courage and commitment are critical for success. Personally, I like to take photos as a hobby and my best photos are the ones that I have gotten in the dead of night and early in the morning. There have been times when people question your motives, as long as you are striving towards your goals and can disregard the naysayers you can succeed.

Unfortunately, many do not like to see others be successful so they try to make you doubt your actions. Perseverance is key to success, working in the drug counseling industry, I have seen what it takes to succeed.

Thanks for the inspiration!

Susheel January 11, 2013 at 1:33 am

Excellent post. You really dialed that in. It’s the simple principles that worked for people that have already been where we are heading and desire to be that we should pay close attention to.Thanks for keeping it real and I always look forward to your next post!

Abhilasha January 9, 2013 at 4:34 am

f you really want something, and really work hard, and take advantage of opportunities, and never give up, you will find a way.. Follow your Dreams.

Matthew January 7, 2013 at 1:57 am

He who never tries never fails. Failure is a necessary component of success. great article.

vidushi kaushik January 5, 2013 at 10:47 am

OMG….! Tia Peterson you did a great job (Y). I hold your all points in a great respect. I never read such a awesome article bfore. I found this article very motivated and inspiring, keep writing (Y) thanks .

Saanvi January 4, 2013 at 4:37 am

I’m cinderella, my dream life live in Hongkong , and escape from Kuwait !

haseeb January 3, 2013 at 12:20 pm

this is so true. never give ups to your dream

Fiona Maclean January 2, 2013 at 4:00 pm

I’ve made so many mistakes and learnt so much in my first year of blogging! It’s kind of refreshing to hear from someone else that it’s best ust to get on with it all!

Rayzel Lam January 2, 2013 at 2:55 am

Thanks for this! Hope 2013 will be better for me. Happy New Year!

Saumya January 2, 2013 at 12:43 am

Thank you, your compliment means a lot, especially from someone so talented. You, also, must never give up – I know I will see you on the shelves in Waterstones one day!

Jay January 1, 2013 at 7:42 am

Hi Tia,

Yes, I echo your thoughts and views on this subject. Anyone who has never failed has never tried anything new in life. I guess everybody seeks perfection whereas in reality, perfection does not exist, one needs to try out something, get it wrong, rectify it and then keep trying. However, it is the fear of rejection, as you have rightly pointed out, which demotivates an individual to go ahead and take a risk.
Anyways, humans do not like uncertainties and risks and so it is their natural tendency to take the safest path.

Good post. :)

Regards

Jay
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Justin December 31, 2012 at 9:14 pm

This is so true when it comes to dealing with failure and rejection. I think once we get the ball rolling and experience a few failures we can become more de-sensitized to the effects of failing.

Tauseef Alam December 31, 2012 at 11:34 am

Hi

Never Give Up is key to success. I believe in “Law Of Attraction”, if you’re a person who always think positive nothing can stop you being a successful person. Just plan your path & do whatever you can do to achieve it. Never distract from your path. One day success will follow you.

Sanjib Saha December 31, 2012 at 8:39 am

Thanks a lot, You have changed my vision about the failures. I hope after reading this article I will be transformed into a completely different personality.

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